Objective perspectives can be liberating.
When we get stuck in our own worlds, our thinking gets boxed in and we miss seeing the bigger picture.
I didn’t speak much in Spanish class in high school.
“¡Más fuerte, Miguel!”
That’s what I heard, every day. I hated it.
Foreign language classes are great for the talkative kids. Not for me. I prefer to listen more than I speak, but in school that’s unacceptable.
So, I developed this notion that there was something wrong with me. That my reluctance to speak up was somehow a deficiency.
In the world of that Spanish class, it was. That’s because the teacher was in charge, and she made the rules. She decided what was acceptable, and what was deficient.
Now, I can make my own rules. I don’t have to buy into her stories about how human beings should behave, which are only the products of her own childhood experiences.
Also, my name’s “Michael”, not “Miguel”.
There’s nothing “wrong” with her perspective, but it’s not the perspective I choose to see things from. I’m glad I have that freedom now.
I’m offering 3 exploration sessions within the next week. These are 30-minute one-on-one sessions. If there’s something you’re stuck on, where you need an outside objective point-of-view, you might want to sign up for one of them.