Category: Perfectionism
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Here’s the thing with writer’s block
Writer’s block is a huge con. You think the idea is: “I’m trying to write something, but I don’t know what to write. There’s a block.” Yeah, that’s not it. Writer’s block happens because you’re afraid of something. What is it? Could be anything: “I won’t express myself very well.” “I’ll be misunderstood.” “What will…
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Loving and Accepting Yourself – Practical Tips
“I suck at piano and I know I should give myself more love and acceptance. But, I don’t know how.” Usually, these problems can be sorted out by getting clear on what exactly you’re trying to do and why you’re trying to do it. So, let’s unpack this a bit. I’m going to define three…
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Why we hate making mistakes
Musicians, artists, writers and other creators deal with problems like these: Perfectionism Performance anxiety Tension Writer’s block Low self-confidence They’re all based on a common source: a fear of making mistakes. That fear is usually learned in early childhood, but it sticks with us throughout our lives. I remember being 4 years old and a…
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Read this if you’re a perfectionist
If you’re a perfectionist, you must meditate. You won’t get rid of perfectionism otherwise. Perfectionism is an anxiety disorder. You’re afraid of making mistakes. The only cure for an anxiety disorder is exposure therapy. That’s when you deliberately expose yourself to the thing you’re afraid of. However, this is hard to do. When you expose…
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This is how cults recruit members
Your friends and family and teachers are out to screw you over. Don’t believe me? Try doing something unexpected (but good for you), and watch what happens. They will freak out. Don’t let that stop you. Keep going. Your mind will also try to stop you. It will tell you about all the horrible things…