Tag: cp perfectionism
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Writing is NOT tiring (and “burnout” and “writer’s block” are both myths)
It’s not possible to run out of ideas. If you think you’ve run out of ideas, you can always just write about what it’s like to be out of ideas. You don’t need to go get more life experiences to clear up your writer’s block. Writer’s block doesn’t come from a lack of life experience.…
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Here’s the thing with writer’s block
Writer’s block is a huge con. You think the idea is: “I’m trying to write something, but I don’t know what to write. There’s a block.” Yeah, that’s not it. Writer’s block happens because you’re afraid of something. What is it? Could be anything: “I won’t express myself very well.” “I’ll be misunderstood.” “What will…
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How to Cure Perfectionism in Your Music Practice
Musicians who identify as “perfectionists” should understand the following about what perfectionism is and how to cure it. Perfectionism is an anxiety disorder. It’s a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). By “anxiety disorder”, I mean you’re afraid of making mistakes, and furthermore, this fear is making it hard for you to practice. Here’s the problem: even if you…
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Loving and Accepting Yourself – Practical Tips
“I suck at piano and I know I should give myself more love and acceptance. But, I don’t know how.” Usually, these problems can be sorted out by getting clear on what exactly you’re trying to do and why you’re trying to do it. So, let’s unpack this a bit. I’m going to define three…
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Why we hate making mistakes
Musicians, artists, writers and other creators deal with problems like these: Perfectionism Performance anxiety Tension Writer’s block Low self-confidence They’re all based on a common source: a fear of making mistakes. That fear is usually learned in early childhood, but it sticks with us throughout our lives. I remember being 4 years old and a…
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Read this if you’re a perfectionist
If you’re a perfectionist, you must meditate. You won’t get rid of perfectionism otherwise. Perfectionism is an anxiety disorder. You’re afraid of making mistakes. The only cure for an anxiety disorder is exposure therapy. That’s when you deliberately expose yourself to the thing you’re afraid of. However, this is hard to do. When you expose…