September 1, 2020

I have a big announcement. . . . . . . . . . I finally got a haircut (after 6 months) 😲 It was originally scheduled for April 21, but it got postponed… Don’t worry, it’s not much shorter than it was yesterday. Only a tiny bit. It’s been quite an adventure, having longer hair

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August 31, 2020

Here are three things about anxiety disorders: The problem is always avoidance. The solution is always exposure. Everything you complain about is the result of an anxiety disorder. WHAT???? 😲 Sorry, I always forget to put the trigger warning at the beginning of the email. Damn it. 🤦‍♂️ OK, consider yourself warned (retroactively). You feel stuck because you're acting stuck. You're acting stuck because you're afraid of moving.

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August 28, 2020

Radical acceptance means you accept things radically. All the way. You don’t fight back. If you’re turned off by the word “acceptance”, it’s probably because you think I’m telling you to be happy  with the things you don’t like. As in, “stop complaining and just accept it”.  No, that’s not what I’m saying. “Acceptance” means you stop fighting. You

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August 27, 2020

“Michael, you’re so confrontational, negative, provocative, you’re being unfair to us, you’re triggering us, you’re being mean…” No. Look what’s actually happening here. All of you think one way. I, an individual, am showing up and saying something different. Who’s the one with the power here? I have zero power. Nothing. I have this keyboard and this

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August 25, 2020

Why do we have a fight-or-flight response when there is no physical danger? It’s just a musical performance. How bad could it possibly get? Yeah, I get that it’s confusing when you understand logically that nothing horrible is likely to happen, and still there’s a deep anxiety response. Shouldn’t you just be able to talk yourself out of it? Why

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August 24, 2020

Several years ago, I was doing a solo piano recital. Not a high-stakes thing (just my friends and family in the audience), but super-stressful for me. Horrible stage fright, negative thinking, low self-esteem, worrying about how I might screw it up. I was sitting backstage, waiting to go on. I had maybe 15 minutes before showtime. Playing every negative

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August 23, 2020

I don’t know if you have a regular meditation practice. Either you do, or you don’t. If you do, fine. I’ll get to you later. If you don’t, I want you to meditate. Today. Before the day is over. I want you to sit down for at least 5 minutes, and just pay attention to whatever happens. There’s

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August 9, 2020

Yes, #30daysofthesefuckingemails is almost over. 😢 Believe it or not, I’m already receiving questions about what I will do next. Before this morning, I wasn’t planning on doing anything next. But now I am. One idea that appeals to me is trying to piss off one friend every day for a month. I’ve already been doing this “accidentally”,

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August 6, 2020

Time can be your best friend. Stop fighting against it. Time can teach you everything you need to know. It will help you learn any skill you want to learn. Instead of trying to make it perfect, make it time-limited. For example, instead of practicing the piano until you can play perfectly, practice for 30

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June 25, 2020

You are totally broken, and yet you are also totally perfect. This is a paradox. But, you should consider it carefully, because it's reality. You're broken for the obvious reasons. You aren't good enough, you aren't smart enough, not enough people like you, you aren't talented enough, you aren't disciplined enough, you haven't achieved enough.

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