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  • #39 – Requests and Being Bulletproof

    #39 – Requests and Being Bulletproof

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    #39 – Requests and Being Bulletproof
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    Let’s talk about requests: how to ask for what you want. And, what to do when people don’t agree to those requests.

    Timeline

    00:00 – Nonviolent Communication requires repetition.
    01:42 – It changes you on a deep level. You have to change how you talk.
    02:53 – If you want something, you have to ask for it.
    04:06 – Doing things for people is FUN. How I got addicted to Candy Crush.
    06:24 – Relationships shouldn’t be based on “right” and “wrong”.
    08:03 – Our society teaches people not to ask for what they want.
    09:36 – What to do if somebody hears your request as a demand. Why requests are good for people to hear.
    13:01 – Bad requests (“If you really loved me, you’d never forget my birthday!”)
    14:36 – The difference between requests and demands is whether you’re ready to empathize with a “no”.
    17:11 – NVC is a game and games have “right” and “wrong”.
    18:51 – Why you should always make a “cry for help”. Dealing with bullies.
    24:46 – When you make a request, it gives the other person a chance to hurt you.
    30:16 – How to ignore accusations and focus on what matters.

  • #38 – Empathy

    #38 – Empathy

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    This is the second episode about Nonviolent Communication. Today, we’ll talk about empathy.

  • #37 – Happy New Year 2022

    #37 – Happy New Year 2022

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    This is simultaneously the last episode of 2021 and the first of 2022. It’s an experiment in storytelling. I didn’t plan out anything beyond that and I feel embarassed.

  • #36 – Why You Don’t Need a Brand

    #36 – Why You Don’t Need a Brand

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    #36 – Why You Don’t Need a Brand
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    Timestamps:

    0:00 Your business can be as flexible as your personality and include all the facets of you.

    3:55 Six fears that stop you from experimenting.

    5:10 Speaking your mind, experimenting, and being true to your own personality doesn’t mean you have to stop being a “business”.

    6:50 Deciding on a job title without getting pigeonholed.

    11:45 The people who matter aren’t judging you on your fonts and colors.

    17:07 Choosing to offer a particular product or service will cause people to put you in a box, but that’s a good thing.

    21:08 Your ideal clients won’t call you a “narcissist”, no matter what you say.

    24:50 The people who NEED your products will pay and will overlook the rough edges (yes, this is true for artists too).

  • #35 – Food

    #35 – Food

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    I love food. Diets don’t work. Society has trained you to hate yourself.

  • #34 – Nonviolent Communication

    #34 – Nonviolent Communication

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    #34 – Nonviolent Communication



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    Nonviolent Communication is an awesome approach to learning how to say what you mean and mean what you say. NVC teaches you to think and talk in a way that tries to serve life, rather than disconnect us from our feelings and needs (the way we’re normally taught to communicate).

    Here’s how you can learn NVC:

    1. Search “nvc marshall rosenberg” on YouTube and watch the 3-hour video with him in the red shirt.
    2. Read his book “Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life”
    3. Practice a lot.
    4. Be prepared for all your friends to get angry.
    5. Keep practicing.

    Good luck!

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