Category: Email Archives
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The difficulty of being “musical”
I’m gonna lay this out there first: Being musical is not hard. So…why do you think it’s hard? You think it’s hard because you were told it’s hard. Think back to early experiences when you first realized that being musical was hard: Maybe you had a music teacher who told you that you weren’t being…
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Why “anxiety” is so hard to fix
In the West, we separate the mind and the body. This is counterproductive. There’s not a strict line between “psychological” problems and “physical” problems. We’re taught that anxiety is a problem because anxiety feels bad. I want you to question that. Does anxiety really feel bad? If you say “of course”, then tell me: what…
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Why we hate making mistakes
Musicians, artists, writers and other creators deal with problems like these: Perfectionism Performance anxiety Tension Writer’s block Low self-confidence They’re all based on a common source: a fear of making mistakes. That fear is usually learned in early childhood, but it sticks with us throughout our lives. I remember being 4 years old and a…
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Read this if you’re a perfectionist
If you’re a perfectionist, you must meditate. You won’t get rid of perfectionism otherwise. Perfectionism is an anxiety disorder. You’re afraid of making mistakes. The only cure for an anxiety disorder is exposure therapy. That’s when you deliberately expose yourself to the thing you’re afraid of. However, this is hard to do. When you expose…
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This is how cults recruit members
Your friends and family and teachers are out to screw you over. Don’t believe me? Try doing something unexpected (but good for you), and watch what happens. They will freak out. Don’t let that stop you. Keep going. Your mind will also try to stop you. It will tell you about all the horrible things…
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I don’t understand why I should meditate everyday
I got a question: “Why should I meditate everyday?” Good question, thanks for asking. You should meditate everyday because, if you don’t, you will suck at meditation. It’s a skill that takes practice. It’s not something you do once and then you’re done. You must spend many hours on it. Let’s make it concrete. There’s…