A 30-day coaching program for women whose husbands just aren’t telling them what they need to know.
Cost: $250 USD
You just want some answers
Your husband isn’t communicating with you. You wish you knew why, but you don’t.
Imagine you could read his private journal. What do you imagine it would say?
- “I can’t wait to ditch my nagging wife and jump on a plane to Maui with Stacy [his 21-year-old girlfriend]”?
- “I want to work on my marriage but I’m afraid to bring it up because of my own insecurities”?
- Or…what if it said nothing at all about you…?
You’d take different actions depending on which scenario is true, right?
But, since you don’t know which is true, you’re doing nothing and this is driving you crazy. You feel stuck.
Here’s the thing: Your desire to get answers is making the problem worse.
(Before we go on, I’m assuming you’re NOT committed to leaving your marriage. I’m assuming you have doubts but you’re at least 1% open to working on things.)
“Am I being too demanding?”
My belief is that the person who’s complaining about the dynamics in a relationship has 100% of the responsibility for fixing it (yes, I know it’s unfair and I know it’s difficult. But hey, anything worth doing is going to be difficult).
But, maybe you’ve tried taking responsibility and one of the following happened:
- It made you feel like you were being too demanding.
- It made him withdraw even more.
The truth is, you probably were being too demanding. Because of your desire to get answers, your previous attempts at communication were almost certainly infused with a sense of urgency.
Fortunately, there are other ways of taking responsibility for communicating better, ones that don’t require you to be demanding.
WARNING: This program will require challenging your own assumptions. I hope that’s enticing.
Take the focus off of him and put it on YOU
In this coaching program, we’ll work together to increase the level of communication you have with your husband by cultivating a stronger relationship with your own thoughts and feelings.
We’ll meet once per week on Zoom for 30 minutes. During that time, here’s what we’ll do:
- Notice how your behavior is influencing your husband’s behavior.
- Notice what feelings are causing your behavior.
- Notice what unmet needs of yours are causing your feelings.
- Find ways of getting your needs met that don’t require your husband to change what he’s doing.
We’re after one of two results: either (a) your husband communicates to you what you want to know, or (b) you feel confident enough to make decisions without him changing anything about his communication.
Probably, it will be a combination of the two. Either way, you’ll win.
Hi, I’m Michael. I’m the partner who doesn’t communicate. I know why it happens and I’m willing to share everything I know.
I’m also an evil mindfulness coach, which is a catch-all term for everything evil but also useful and awesome. I post a lot on Instagram (@no.michael.here).
The cost of this 30-day program is $250 USD.
How to sign up
If this sounds like something that would interest you, I invite you to fill out the application form. I’ll be in touch to let you know if I think it would be a good fit. Hope to hear from you.