Category: Communication
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How to Respond to Mean Words with Self-Respect When You’re Being Dumped
Breakups can really hurt, especially when nasty words get thrown around. It’s tempting to take those words to heart and make things even messier. But here’s the thing: those mean words often come from a place of unresolved pain. That’s why setting some healthy boundaries becomes super important when you’re dealing with the aftermath of…
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If your man isn’t communicating with you
This post is for women who understand that reality is created subjectively and who are on board with the anti-toxic-positivity/pro-radical-acceptance philosophy we’ve got going on over here at Michael Korman Incorporated. So…if your man isn’t communicating with you, here are 5 things you should keep in mind (unless you want to drive yourself crazy): 1.…
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Stop making your relationships worse
Here are some hard truths: Other people don’t cause your feelings. Your feelings are caused by your unmet needs. Most of those needs are a product of your genetics or your childhood programming. This is nonsense: “I’m angry because my partner said something hurtful.” No, you’re angry because you have an unmet need. Someone else…
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How to stop feeling stuck when talking to people
The reason your communication skills aren’t improving is because you’re not allowing yourself to make mistakes. Look, you need to make mistakes. Just make them. What’s the big deal? Seriously. Try to find the big deal. There’s no big deal. Yeah, yeah, I get it: when you make mistakes, bad things happen. That’s true. But,…
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Stop “apologizing”
Apologies assume: Someone hurt someone else. Someone did something wrong. Someone needs to fix the hurt in order to make things right. None of this makes sense. “I’m sorry I hurt you. What I did was wrong. I promise not to do it again. Please forgive me.” To this, I respond: You didn’t hurt me.…
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How to Speak Snowflake
In today’s inflammatory social media environment, it can be difficult to understand the language of snowflakes. Since it’s based entirely on blame and shame, they don’t talk about themselves…only you. Nonetheless, like all human language, Snowflake is fundamentally designed to express the needs and feelings of the speaker. I thought I’d give a brief guide…